There are routines…and then there are rituals. Routines are done out of habit, while rituals are done with purpose and intention. As mamas, we tend to prioritize ourselves last. We forget to feed ourselves, to care for ourselves, to love ourselves. But here’s the thing – and I know you all KNOW this – we HAVE TO do better. For our families, for our friends, for our colleagues, and most importantly, for ourselves.
My day, like many of you, looks a little something like this: wake up with baby, make myself some tea while I feed her breakfast, get ready for work while she unfolds all of the clean laundry still sitting in the laundry basket from three days ago, hand her to the nanny while I gather my belongings and head off for work. By the time I get home, I want to spend time with my little love, make sure dinner’s on the table for my hardworking husband, and get her bathed, snuggled, and fed before bed. After putting her down to sleep, I put away her toys, take care of any dishes in the kitchen, wipe down the counters, re-fold the laundry she unfolded that morning (probably leaving them in the basket to put away later), and sit down at my computer to take care of some business. If I don’t pass out, first.
I recently decided that I needed to have a little nightly ritual – one that I do with the intention of self-care. It doesn’t take much, it doesn’t take long, but I take a little time each night to focus on ME.
Some of these may sound like a given, but if you’re a mama, you know that’s not always the case (even if we don’t care to admit it). My little ritual looks something like this:
- Make myself a cup of herbal tea.
- Light a candle by my bed.
- Brush my teeth.
- Wash my face.
- Sip my tea and read a book for 15 minutes. An actual, turn-the-pages book.
- Blow out the candle and let my head hit the pillow!
Have a ritual of your own? Please share! If not, start one – TONIGHT!